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[quote=Anonymous]My dad treated my mom this way. I really thought it was normal growing up, as in pretty intense, but justified. How fked up is that.

Despite being harshly verbally and emotionally abused and sometimes physically abused for 20 years, my mom didn't teach me any lessons to recognize and protect myself against these sort of relationships/didn't impress upon my siblings and I that his behavior was unacceptable (other than repeatedly saying it was unacceptable), and that's what I find really sad and kind of resent her for.

Ironically, it was my dad who taught me I needed to be financially independent so I wouldn't have to put up with a partner's abuse (as a kid I thought abuse meant literally getting beat to a pulp).

Btw 25 years later my dad did the exact same thing to me, and I've decided he will not see his granddaughter until he at least acknowledges what he did.

Anyway, OP, if nothing else, please don't allow your kids to get brainwashed into thinking that abusive behavior is okay. Though sounds like you haven't convinced yourself that this is the case. By the way, love does not preclude ongoing verbal and emotional abuse. If you don't divorce, just know the environment will be normalized and can really screw them up. Lack of consequences for your husband also reinforce and probably encourage his behavior. 
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