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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I look totally normal and happy from the outside and my DH and I have checked a ton of accomplishment boxes, but I have a super-high ACEs score, our family is filled with mentally ill relatives and early deaths, and it’s exhausting. I feel sad because I know that no matter how hard I work, my kids won’t have the strong supportive extended family that many of her peers have, and I know that will make her path more difficult. OP, I often think about the question you’ve raised and it makes me sad but also gives me a ton of compassion for people I see whose traumas are worn more obviously than mine. I think people without any major things often think smugly it’s because of something they did or earned, and from my perspective it’s just luck of the family you’re born into.[/quote]

This is my current situation with a mentally ill husband and two kids, one of whom inherited the same disorder.
I had an awesome childhood and family.  I was totally blindsided by this “invisible disability” and suffer verbal abuse and constant setbacks in the home due to my spouse.  Leaving with the kids will be very hard but has to happen to break the cycle. I cannot have my children thinking any of this is normal and I will have to “give up” on what might happen over time or with a big accident under their fathers custody time. 
It’s ruined a lot of my life currently and will going forward. All I can do is get healthy and make a good life as a single mom. Soon.[/quote]

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