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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] but life tells us all that ugly stuff happens. If you re saying thaff ty you’ve never heard or thought of these things you’re totally lying. [/quote]

Here's the thing, if someone is co-sleeping so they have access to their kid for abuse, that's not a co-sleeping issue.  There are plenty of people who take advantage of the fact that a kid sleeps alone, to have privacy to let them abuse the kid.

Yes, abuse is awful, but the fact that I co-slept didn't increase my kid's risk for abuse, because I am not an abuser.  [/quote]

I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to quote you for the entire reply. What I was telling you is that I’m not judging.

I continued to everyone else saying the rest. Yes. You are correct. People can find a lot of ways to abuse. You slept with your child until he was 6, not 16.

At some point everyone needs his/her own bed. When do you (not you specifically, but the forceful repliers) think that is the point?

I think at some point it’s emotionally unbalanced at a minimum. [/quote]

OP *absolutely no one in this thread who advocates co sleeping is saying their child should never get their own bed*. The age where a child does get their own bed differs for every family, but I’m going to tell you that most cosleeping kids have their own bed from pretty much birth, it’s just the the family bed is where they sleep.

Let me flip your script and tell you about me, a happily cosleeping parent to a 4 year old. I was horrifically sexually abused until the age of 10, starting at about 3. Co-sleeping probably would have saved me because it would have meant two parents in the bed I was in, instead of me being in a room all by myself down the hall where no one could really hear me unless I came to them.

Now, that’s not the reason we coslwep, but it also kind of debunks your abuse theory, doesn’t it?

The way you keep tying a bed to “marital duties” and family CSA, plus codependency makes me really think you actually would benefit from working this out with a professional.

I’m not blaming CIO or how many of my generation was raised, but most codependents I know are chasing a loving, secure relationship that they never had. Most of my friends grew up in the CIO (although I trust it want called that then, it just was what you did), daycare/ latchkey era, combined detached parenting while parents were … well, doing whatever it was that 80s and 90s parents did, which was not often helping their child sleep, build a careeer portfolio, or even homework; and if you’re not of this age group, let me tell you that there is more than enough codependency to go around. Raised super independent, chasing connection through all kinds of means these days. [/quote]

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