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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I married into a MC family when I married my DH. I grew up UMC/UC when I was younger so I know that lifestyle well. Unfortunately my parents mismanaged their money so I do not have a trust fund or what have you as is customary of my set. Together DH and I make a good income now in our early thirties. 500K or so depending on how his business does per year. We are pretty happy considering. Both our sisters however, happened to marry significantly wealthy men. One is marrying an investment banker and they aren't even 30th yet and live a life very few can afford. The other is marrying a well-to-do techie who is obviously a tech superstar in addition to coming from a wealthy family who own many properties and constantly gift them getaways and other fun treats.

I know my husband and I are fortunate but now compared to the drastically different lifestyles of our immediate siblings...we feel...less than. And I am working through my own feelings and coming to terms with having a very wealthy sister in law and sister, in the back of my mind, I worry about the financial discrepancy any children we have might feel.  It must be odd for a little child to grow up with cousins who live fabulously wealthy lives.

I am unsure how to navigate this issue which I know from experience will eventually come up. Advice? Thoughts?[/quote]

I totally get it and understand where you're coming from. From my own perspective, I think you're in a sweet spot for your family and the way your kids will grow up. Recognize that you are the 1% even if it doesn't feel like it but self made and building your life with your husband. You will have 99% of what they have. Yes, a ridiculous home and second houses around the country will not be in your reach at this point in time... but your kids will grow up in a very nice neighborhood, with access to anything they want, get a good education, etc. People would kill to be in this position. There's also something to be said when it's actually your own money. I have seen many families with trust funds and have that blow up in their faces.. spouses not on the same side, loss of $, meddling family, divorces, etc.. when you are a couple that depends on each other and has to have the same goals for survival it changes the dynamics in a positive way. You will see with time I think. Some of the issues that come with a lot of money, especially money that may not be your own. (sounds like your parents had a bit of that)[/quote]

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