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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is part of what I wrote to DC, who graduated from college several years ago.  DC later told me that they re-read the note periodically.
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As you start your life at school, think through the sweep of human history and try to guess how many people were given this opportunity. Acknowledge to yourself just how rare and special this gift is.  Take advantage of this amazing opportunity you have.

Find a Constant:  Find something to hold on to, something you can carry with you throughout college as you encounter all these new things.  It might be running, playing your instrument, or something else entirely. Regardless of what your constant is, you should practice making it as routine as brushing your teeth.  It will give you stability when everything else is changing.

Get Out There.  Everyone will want to meet you and there will be none of the social awkwardness that usually accompanies rushing up and speaking to total strangers. Everyone is a total stranger.  Do not squander this short window of opportunity - it will never come around again.  Join clubs and groups. The earlier you meet people and find a place to belong, the sooner you will enjoy school.

Show Up:  Go to every single class and sit in the front.  Get help early and often when you need it.  Group work, study sessions and other academic collaborations are the norm in college. Get into study groups early in the year, before the midterm rush.

Be Present:  Look people in the eye. Offer a firm handshake. Show up on time. Help out. Be present. Pay attention to those around you. Never again will life mix youth, freedom, opportunity and resources together in quite this heady combination. If these are to be the very best years, you must make them so.
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OMG PP. I'm the OP and you made me cry. This is wonderful.[/quote]

Remember "Freaks and Geeks" the TV show?  This sounds exactly like something the parents would say to their kids in that show and the kids would roll their eyes.  Do any of you really and truly remember what it was like to be young and going off to college?  You might think I sound like an a$$, but c'mon now.  "Go to every single class and sit in the front?"  Seriously?  Go to class, sure, but keep your head down and listen and it doesn't matter where you sit -- and you won't get labeled the class gunner or nerd.  The rest of what's written here is largely self-evident to any kid who's already been raised right.[/quote]

PP who wrote this here.  I've never seen Freaks and Geeks, so no, I'm not familiar with those parents.

People who are "young and going off to college" are not all the same, and my DC was appreciative of my note.

I don't "think you sound like an a$$," I *know* you *are* an ass.[/quote]

You've never seen Freaks and Geeks?  Binge watch it once you send your kid off and have more time on your hands.  It's only one season.  It's the best![/quote]

I've been an empty nester for several years now.

No thanks.[/quote]

New poster.  It actually is a really great show.  [/quote]

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