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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I guess at 39 when I started trying to get pregnant as a single mom by choice?

I spent the entire year before "dating like it was my job" going on 3-4 dates a week and just never met someone who seemed worth delaying (or giving up on) having a biological child for. I realized I had the rest of my life to meet someone, but a very limited time to become a parent. Became a mom at 41.

But I actually don't feel like I've given up. I still really want to get married. The pandemic and parenting a young child has made dating feel really hard. But I still hope to marry at some point.
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But this idea that you can have a child first and a husband later, as if these periods of time are fungible, is completely flawed. It is almost impossible have the time to date as a single parent, and children are so consuming you are very unlikely to find anyone, especially if you already hadn't found someone. People don't get that these things are foundational to each other in a pyramid not interchangeable blocks in the toy train.[/quote]

Are you speaking from personal experience here? Or just uncomfortable with someone else's life choices?

Because I know plenty of women who have done this and ended up quite happy.
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