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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She got asked out on a date that he tried to frame as "not a date" (just wants advice!) and turned it into not-a-date for real (bringing a girlfriend, talking about her boyfriend).  I think that your discomfort makes sense but also that you might not understand, as a guy, the layers women have to navigate to keep guys from feeling rejected when you reject them.  Their kids are on a team together so she has to see him in the future and if he gets his feelings hurt he could make it extremely uncomfortable.  He could badmouth her to other parents, harass her when he sees her, stalk her, get violent, none of it is out of the realm of reality.[/quote]

This is total garbage. A woman who is not attracted to you will not give a shit about your feewings when she rejects you, let alone go on a “not a date” with you. You’ll get the big nope, go away, talk to the hand. Every guy has been there. No woman has time to go on “not dates” with every guy who asks her out just to make sure he doesn’t get all obnoxious about his rejection.

The fact is, she went on this date because she WAS attracted to this guy, and was investigating to see whether she wanted to date this guy instead of the OP. She’s trying to maintain plausible deniability about it being a date so she doesn’t lose her current boyfriend while she test-drives a possible new boyfriend. The OP is a fool if he puts up with this. Trust your feelings, man. Your gut is telling you she can’t be trusted, and your gut is right.[/quote]

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