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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Putting the naming tradition aside, I think Hani is a perfectly fine name.  He is not going to get teased at school. Kids today are simply not like that. They are excepting of different ideas and cultures much more than we were a generation ago.  So that part will be completely fine.  Also, there are many cultures where naming after the family patriarch is a big thing and passed down from generation to generation. For example, it is a very big thing with the sephardic jews (Jews of Middle Eastern descent).  [b]Not giving your child the name Hani it’s going to offend your in-laws. And I don’t mean just a little bit. This is going to be a massive offense.  Whatever dynamic you have with them now it’s going to be forever changed.  If your in-laws are reasonable people though maybe things will not be that bad. Only you know that.[/b] None of us on the Internet to know that about your family.   I’m not saying this to pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do, I’m letting you know what the consequences are going to be. However, you and your husband really need to sit down and come up with a plan. You both need to be on the same page. For example, if you go with the naming tradition, then he forgot some thing else and goes with a tradition from your family for the second child let’s say.  Or, maybe the children are raised studying your religion instead of his.[/quote]

Yep this.[/quote]

If anyone is going to throw a tantrum and cut me off because of what I chose to name *my* child, then good riddance to them. I don’t need that drama in my life.

Sorry, but adults who act like toddlers don’t get a say in how I live my life. I am too damn old and tired to deal with that crap. And I don’t care about the cultural aspect, not respecting boundaries is not respecting boundaries, period.[/quote]

I’m the person who wrote the thread being quoted. And I get it because in some ways I feel that way, but you must not come from a culture with very ingrained traditions. This is going to have a lasting impact on their relationship with their son and their relationship with their grandchildren. It will also affect how most of the extended family will treat them.  while the OP is concerned about her rights as a mother being stomped on, she also has to take what I just said into consideration. It’s not meant to change her mind, but it is information she needs to consider along with her husband. As one person mentioned, I would be angry at her husband for not mentioning this as basically a dealbreaker.[/quote]

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