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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here with an update. So I told the guy that I am looking to find someone to date seriously, but that becoming exclusive is something that happens organically over time after getting to know someone. He seemed to accept that. He has been texting a lot though.

One thing I’ve noticed about myself is that I like to ease into a relationship. I take my time with giving someone attention. Once I’m into them I like a lot of quality time, and often end up with partners who want less quality time. Maybe do I need to warm up more to people like this guy to find men who like a lot of quality time down the road?[/quote]

OP, I'm married (first marriage for both) with kids, so take my advice with a grain of salt. But, yes, you're doing a 180 after the relationship started and the guys aren't matching your reversal. The more serious relationships I've had went to daily contact pretty quickly if not immediately. The guys who want contact or dates 1-3 times per week typically don't grow to want more with time IME. You can have daily contact to see if you want a long-term commitment and sex. Just texting and dating a lot doesn't mean you owe anyone anything, and you haven't said anything that indicates that this guy expects it. He seems like he respects your desire for a different approach.

I would start dating him soon. Weeks of texting without dating does seem a little strange to me. Go out once and see how you feel. Unless you can tell that you don't like him, go out again until you know. You can offer exclusivity without agreeing to get into a long-term relationship or hop into bed. You can decide after date 1 or 3 or 8 that you don't want to see him anymore.[/quote]

She's not doing a 180. She's acting like a normal person.[/quote]

Agreed. I can’t get past how weird it is to ask for exclusivity before you’ve gone on a first date. I don’t think it’s crazy to move towards exclusivity quickly once you’ve met and if you are really into each other but this is strange. [/quote]

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