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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just know you will get “his/her version”.

[b]If he/she cheated, they will say their spouse did.[/b]

If he/she was a pr@ck, it will be the other one that was.

A lot of people carry their same issues into the next marriage, particularly the ones that are blameless.[/quote]

So if you were cheated on, how are you supposed to answer this question?[/quote]

+1.  DH cheated on me with many women -- prostitutes, work colleagues, craiglist randos, etc.  How on earth do I talk about why I am divorced?  AFAIK, we had a good sex life (3-4 times a week), but he told me gigantic and detailed lies, which were only revealed by my accidentally stumbling across something.  I followed the thread and unraveled everything, protected myself and the kids, etc.  I've taken quite some time to settle myself and the kids (full custody to me).

Am I undateable because people think his cheating is a reflection on me? If I tell this story, do people really think that I was the one doing that cheating?  Do they really think I'm telling only "my side" of the story?  What on earth is the "other side" of a story where the DH is cheating with dozens of women over the space of a few years?[/quote]

I just posted and noticed you have a similar story to me. Please post if you find a way around telling the horror story without terrifying your date.[/quote]
I’m so sheltered and naive. Are you saying that people judge someone for divorcing a sex addict? I guess I thought most people would be understanding of someone not wanting the lifestyle of being married to a sex addict.[/quote]

DP. Nobody should judge you for this. But I’d want you to show that you have recovered from the trauma and are ready to be in a relationship. (male or female.) [/quote]

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