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[quote=Anonymous]I agree with a previous MIL PP that these stories and responses are all fascinating!  I was a MIL for 20 years before my son divorced.  I was also a DIL for 20+ years before my inlaws died.  A lot of this stuff mentioned is fascinating from both perspectives.

I was thinking about how my husband told me before we married that when he was in the service he sent a lot of money home each month for his dad to put in his savings account.  When he got out of the service he found out his dad had spent it all, mostly on drinking but also other things.  That was something I would never have talked about to my in laws but I knew it and it definitely colored my view of my FIL.

I can't even get into the issues with my DIL other than to say when my son told me they were getting divorced was one of the happiest days of my life.  My relationship with her started out good but gradually became almost non-existent.  However, I could not be honest with her about any of it and still maintain confidentiality with what my son had told me.  So there's always that aspect of respecting your child's marriage, or respecting your spouse's relationship with their parents, and therefore becoming distant rather than being honest and wreaking havoc.[/quote]

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