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[quote=Anonymous]My inlaws rarely acknowledged me for 40 years. They've passed, but they set the die in the first weeks of my meeting  them. I was the wrong  religion, wrong  political party, and had a child from a previous  marriage. I remained civil and polite for the entire duration, they were guests  in my home  for every holiday,  but it was  clear that I was never going to  be let in. They never started a  conversation with me, never asked me about my job, my work,  my life...ever. No joking around, no conversation. I did  receive  gifts on my birthday,  though. Odd, because they talked  over  me, changed  the subject, everything. It was all passive aggressive- never direct or confrontational. They also bad mouthed me to their friends, the few that they had. I actually cannot  imagine  what they had to offer. I was a great wife to their  son, a good  Mom, kind to them.   They  were overtly racist,  anti- immigrant, hemophobic, and classist. My family came from immigrant origins, 2 generations ago (!), we weren't Christian,  and I am a Democrat. But their son is too, and they  blame  me for  that.  I just decided to let it go after around  year 15  and not  care.

They  recently died and just  seeing their stuff in my house  picks the hairs up on my neck. I think I have some PTSD.  Maybe you are nice  to your  DIL, but she's picking something else up. I won't assume it's  really something,  as I don't know you, but if you care, bring it up to her. Had that  ever been asked of  me,  I would  have told them. I am probably  your age now![/quote]

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