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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have to say, I'm not the original poster who suggested that the kids go out and find friends to play with. I commented and agreed with it, and I'm kind of shocked at the comments against it. Yes, I understand that the 16 year matmy be a bit old for that, but the 14 year old isn't. Even still no one is suggested that they be treated or act like their 3, but the suggestion that they go outside with friends and get fresh air. They ought to be to find something fun to do without getting into any trouble.[/quote]

You clearly don't have teens this age.  [/quote]

No I don't , but I was a teen and I know what I was like and what I did. I wasn't a very busy teen and [b]had plenty of time to hang out with my friends.[/b] My parents never had to nag or force me to go outside or leave the house. [/quote]

Key point:  you had friends.  When you have friends, you have things to do and things to get you out of the house.  OP's kids don't have those friends outside of school.  OP, my kids are exactly the same.  They've struggled socially since their elementary school split going into middle school.  They are now 16 and 14.    It is not as easy as it was when we were kids.  And becoming increasingly isolated over the last several years, they have not continued to develop their social skills.  So I think the lack of interest in any activities is at least partially anxiety about not knowing anybody, on top of being "forced" to do something they're not interested in doing.

Wish we could get our 4 teens together![/quote]

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