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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, if you are in the traditional role where your in laws count on you to coordinate everything, drop the rope. Let your husband be responsible for managing his parents. If he forgets to tell them about a game or concert or whatever, oh well. [/quote]

OP here. I did play that role for a long time and have tried to wean them (and me) off this for the last couple of years. When they come to me with requests, I I usually tell them to talk to DH. I redirect to him as much as possible in a nice way.[b] The problem is that my husband plays this role pretty badly as he is more disorganized (and many times has no clue what the children’s schedule is) so they always come back to me.[/b] He sucks at coordinating and can’t see an issue with how obnoxious, rude and overbearing his parents are. His view is that we should “just deal with it because they love us.”
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Not your problem. If he is so disorganized and never knows when anything is, then their constant questions will stress him out and he will actually see where you’re coming from with them! Women are always expected to handle all of this emotional labor and never get any credit for it. Your DH needs to get a taste of what you do for him and his parents by taking this on, and how much extra stress it adds to you.[/quote]

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