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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. It was major depression. I had an aunt who was brutally murdered when I was a teen and that really scarred me. It is still unsolved and I had a lot of issues surrounding it. That and my home life and upbringing. It was filled with violence, drugs, and sexual abuse. I was left to feel unwanted as a kid and that really put me with low self-esteem and a feeling of very little self worth. It was very difficult and hard and I really turned to food as my addiction. It’s not the best choice but I think it’s better than drugs ( never done) or drinking ( rarely drink). I grew up in a household where nutrition wasn’t important ( my parents and siblings are skinny) and I didn’t know anything about it. I went through therapy and I’m much better. I found the right doctors and treated my PCOS and weight started falling off. I don’t think I will ever go back to my old ways because I never want to feel like that again. I’ve been able to maintain my weight for two years.

For the fatphobic comments. I’m not fat phobic, but I also don’t agree with the “ health at every size” thing going on today. It’s important to love yourself, but obesity is not healthy, and we need to stop acting like it is. Being obese is a health problem and we shouldn’t be normalizing it. I don’t agree with fat shaming or hurting anyone, but we need to stop with the obesity is fine that is going on today. I want a fit partner because I want someone who is also into healthy eating and fitness. It’s important I have a partner who shares those same values.

I’m not sure I want kids. If I have them, good, but I’m fine not having kids. [/quote]

I think what would concern people would be the tendency to turn to food in crisis.  What if you have a child with a serious illness or something terrible
happen in your married life? Something that could throw you into depression, would you turn to food? As a partner, that would be my concern.  In your 30s no kids life if easy.  But life goes on and take turns [/quote]

Yeah nothing would be worse than a situation where someone had an ill child *and they ate too much* the horror!

I need to remember this thread the next time the men of DCUM get in their feelings about women preferring men with good jobs— we should start one about dating men who *ever* made below six figures... :roll:  :roll:  :roll:  :roll:  [/quote]

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