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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Same. I truly don’t understand it but I can get the whole house looking clean in the time it would take him to make breakfast and load the dishwasher.

I think a lot of men don’t have the practice to do it and they don’t feel they have to since someone (their wife) will do it later. I’m so used to picking up and cleaning as I go, it’s an unconscious part of my routine. For DH, it seems to take more mental energy to figure out what needs to get done and then do it.[/quote]

They know how to get the house "clean enough" for their satisfaction. If you are not satisfied with that level of cleanliness, then it's on you to do the work to satisfy yourself.

There is no reason to believe that clean enough to satisfy him is "incorrect" and clean enough to satisfy you is "correct". Nobody's going to die if there are some dirty plates in the sink.[/quote]

[b]This is just false[/b]. It's not that someone will die if there are dirty dishes in the sink. It's that at some point, someone has to do those dishes. And the longer they sit there with food caked to them, the harder it will be to wash them. What could have been a 20 second task (rinse plate, place in dishwasher) becomes a whole chore. Plus while the dirty dishes sit in the sink, now the sink can't be used to prep vegetables or fill a pot with water.

This isn't just a question of personal preference. I'm probably naturally messier than my DH. My closet is always a mess, for instance. So are my drawers in the bathroom. But that doesn't impact him in anyway. It impacts me sometimes, but that's my business. But when it comes to shared household spaces and tasks, and definitely when it comes to childcare, no one is being unreasonable by expecting things to be done to a kind of baseline standard in a timely fashion. If you want to live in a house full of dirty dishes, don't get married and don't have kids and don't have roommates either. That's not a reasonable thing to expect someone to deal with.[/quote]

Agreed. Yes, people have different standards but there are a few things that must get done so that the household can continue functioning. It would be difficult to wait days to do the dishes as the household needs access to the sink and you need to use some of the dirty dishes for cooking and serving new meals. Laundry must be done at some point so that the family has clothing to wear. In a lot of these cases I think DH and DW actually have similar standards, DH just doesn’t feel as personally responsible for meeting these standards. [/quote]

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