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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When the kids are gone, which will be sooner than you think, you’ll regret not taking more time to be with them. [/quote]

Or maybe she, like a lot of moms, will feel frustrated by how much her life she gave up for her kids when her kids didn’t really need her to? [/quote]

Sorry but no.  Preferring to work than vacation with your family is the stuff that strained relations are made of when kids grow up.  Listen to Cats and the Cradle. [/quote]

The dad in cats cradle never spent a week with his kid on vacation!

Also how is this different than taking any time off from kids? I think we would all say that it’s totally fine when a parent wants to go out for several days to be with friends. And OP isn’t even telling her family she doesn’t want to be with them, just that she has things she needs to do at home.

I think it’s good for kids to see that their parents have their own lives. People tend to respect moms more when they are very present and loving with their kids but also set boundaries so they can live their own lives too. [/quote]

It's 2 weeks of a family vacation. Not giving up all her free time for the rest of her life.[/quote]

A 2-week family vacation is excessive. It is expensive and it is excessive. A lot of people do not want to be away from home for more than a week. It's disruptive. An exception is international travel due to time to travel. No one needs a two-week family vacation. It's absurd. And absurb people are guilting OP into doing it. One week is more than enough. If he wants two weeks, he can do one week alone with the kids.
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When I was growing up, we did two-month long vacations. Every summer, my father piled the entire family - 3 kids sans dogs and cats - into the family wagon for the drive north from Florida to my grandparents house on Cape Cod. My father would then return home (fly) and spend a month by himself. This was the time he did all the work on the house. When July ended he came back and we drove south to my other grandparents house in Ocean City, NJ. We spent all of August there with my grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. I have fond memories of these vacations, the time spent with family, etc. All of them are gone now. I realize I was blessed to have this experience.

We also did one or two short vacations - a Labor Day trip with friends to Naples or Vero Beach and a Disney trip once a year, usually tied to my Dad’s travel for work.

OP doesn’t want a two-week vacation. She can choose not to go. [/quote]

What op wants is to refuse to engage with her family in a way that they find meaningful.[/quote]

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