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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To all the parents chiming in to say that it's better to have a child miss out on an experience they really want to have than to come up with a solution in partnership with the child and the camp, are you the ones raising children who will be mercilessly cruel to a child who wets the bed once in a while? Maybe you need to talk to your kids (and yourselves) about how to be kind and inclusive, and how to step in and deescalate when they see other children engaging in teasing and bullying. Just a thought.

OP, I agree with another poster who said you sound like a lovely person. Best of luck to your nephew! I'm sure he'll do great at camp.[/quote]

[b]Please. This is setting your child up to fail and calling it inclusivity. [/b]

Nobody is saying keep the kid locked at home forever. People are saying find a day camp that has all the activities he was looking forward to. [/quote]

I'm the father of twins from earlier.  My 9-yo son sounds very much like OP's nephew.  I told him about this thread and asked his opinion.  He said if the kid knows and understands the situation, he can plan like my son did.  He packed his pull-up with his pajamas, went to the bathroom, went to a stall and changed there.  He said no one saw or heard his pull-up and it was a non-issue.  I asked what he would do if someone found out and made fun of him.  He said he would tell them to stop and if they didn't, he would report them to one of the CIT's or adult counselors.  He was not afraid of being bullied and he would not let them keep him from going if he wanted to go.  He said that was essentially letting the bullies win.  He also said that there were other kids who wet their sleeping bags at the overnight and he said no one at his camp bullied or made fun of those campers.  And this was an overnight camp he went to when he was 7; the same age as OP's nephew.

I understand the point that the PP and others like it are making.  I also think it is important to talk to the kid about the possibilities, that these scenarios could happen, but ultimately, if the child was willing to make adjustments, and was willing to handle the possibility of being bullied and knew what to do, then you should let the kid go.  I think my son learned well that you can't let bullies win.  If you avoid doing things because you are afraid of bullies, then essentially you have been bullied before you even started.  In this case, the bully has prevented the victim from even going to a camp that he very seriously wants to go to.  To me, denying a child, who understands the potential consequences and is willing to accept them, the chance to go, is letting the bullies win and kowtowing to bullies before you've even met them.[/quote]

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