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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So let me get this straight, OP.  You swept in, paid for a hotel, and assume that the sister and her family are super grateful to be crammed together into a hotel room, all for the purpose of getting to see you when it is convenient for you during the trip.  They appear miserable to you, and...you conclude that this is the way they are all the time?  Is that right?[/quote]

Did OP force them to travel to her with a gun to their heads? [b]Sister and family could’ve declined the generous offer.[/b] [/quote]

Could they really, though?  They are poor.  They probably receive other help from the wealthy sister.  I am sure it is very difficult to be the poor sibling and have to accept help from such a condescending, judgemental person as the OP.  Perhaps they poor sister doesn't want to spend time with her judgy older sis, but knows that ultimately she needs to avoid burning bridges for the sake of her family.  There is a lot more going on here and a lot more at stake than just accepting a free hotel room for the weekend.[/quote]

Where exactly was I judging them? Please, tell me, I would love to know. I said not ONE WORD about blaming her or acting like she should’ve been more grateful. I didn’t expect a thing back nor did I say I couldn’t understand why they were miserable. OF COURSE I understand why. I am sad and wondering what I can do for them, besides just being there. And yes, I never forced her to come up. She offered to take vacation time and come up to see me since we haven’t seen each other in years. I did not pay for a small room for them; we each had suites and they all had their own beds. This wasn’t some luxury hotel, it was an Embassy Suites with plenty of room for all of us. I’m sorry I didn’t provide each and every detail but as usual, DCUMers have to see an OP as always in the wrong. Thanks to those who offered supportive and sympathetic comments. I appreciate them.[/quote]

OP, next time, give your sister the money you spent on this trip and FaceTime her.  Read the toothpaste story above. They are probably mentally thinking of what bill they could pay with one meal. [/quote]

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