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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I give DH a list every year or else I am going to end up with some sort of electronic game device that he wants me to love that I could care less about.  On this list are items ranging from $2 to several hundred, anywhere from 10-20 items, and I just let him choose.  This way he gets to pick, the element of surprise is there, I still get something I like.

All of this said, it really does irk me that he waits until the last minute to purchase any of these items.  I want to be thought of, not an afterthought.  Men are just thoughtless and clueless sometimes.

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My DH is also bad at choosing gifts, so I make a list like this and he picks from it.  BUT he is nervous about getting the right gift and has a lot of baggage from his family about there being many many gifts under the tree.  So, he ends up hounding me for weeks about which gifts I really want and asking me to please put a bunch of less expensive things on the list because he doesn't want to buy me the one thing I actually want (even though it's in the budget we agreed on) because then I'd only have one gift, etc.  It's exhausting and makes me feel like I'm STILL doing all the work even after generating a list.  This year I told him that I would like some element of surprise and asked that he please deal with his own issues himself and do some sneaking around so that I don't actually know what I'm getting.

Anyway, I know it swings the other direction regarding the actual gifts, but this thread resonates with me with regard to the process becoming all about the other person's issues.[/quote]

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