Reply to UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms.

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "UGH. Hotel with adjoining rooms."

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does your husband always let his parents walk all over him like this?   He seriously isn’t going to confront them about this?  [/quote]

We decided together to stay for two nights so as not to have wasted the time we spent driving, then surprise them the morning of by checking out early. He will then tell them we dislike the adjoining dynamic and we felt very disrespected by it, so we’re leaving early. Then, when future travel requests come up, we’ll simply say we’re not interested, but they are welcome to visit us.

We will still travel to visit them for holidays and such, but if they cross our boundaries in their home, we’ll move to hotel-only when visiting them.[/quote]

That sounds hurtful. [/quote]

It’s also passive aggressive and immature. Why not sit down and explain why you don’t want adjoining rooms? Or is it just because of cupcake crumbs? Because if that’s what it is, stop traveling and visiting them.[/quote]

I chat with you admittedly “mild mannered” DH. And If he is as out of touch with his feelings as you seem, he probably did not clearly state your wants. He probably passively said something to the effect of “don’t worry about/we don’t necessarily need a joining rooms” and their response was fine.

Sounds like your in-laws are trying to have a good relationship with you and your DH. If it’s just two nights in a hotel room, that seems very doable from both sides. Of course you don’t have to, but you could sit down and try to explain to them WHY you don’t want joining rooms. If they’re reasonable people they’ll listen. Give them the benefit of the doubt. Respect each other‘s as people. Going it Your way you are  signing up for a forever long tense relationship with your in-laws. I think people want or expect bad IL Relationships. It Doesn’t have to be that way.

People suck up, bite their tongues, and deal with things when it comes to work and people they are not close to. and treat family worse.[/quote]

Thanks for your fiction. The facts are that we have listed the reasons why, and was very clear. They chose to ignore. Those are the facts. -OP[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics