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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t have a problem with my children exploring their identity via sexual orientation and gender identity. If parents would just relax a little about it I don’t think kids would be as likely to make it as big if an deal in your life. Think about it: if your daughter who has just leaned about the existence of trans people comes up to you and says “I’m a boy” and you say “no you’re not,” how are they going to react? They will get upset at you and do what they can to prove they are a boy. If you say “great! I love you no matter what!” they will feel supported and won’t feel pressure either way.

If they are actually just exploring their identity and aren’t trans, no harm done. Whereas if you tell them they are wrong about their identity and they actually are trans, you have just seriously damaged your relationship and made your kid more likely to suffer from anxiety, depression, STDs and poor academic performance. [/quote]

This is 100% what I was going to say. My 12 yo DS just recently told me he is pansexual. I think identity politics are very big right now and people - children and adults -  feel the need to name and label every experience, feeling, etc. In fact he has a crush on a boy he described as "non-binary" despite the fact that this boy does not identify as such!! I have a feeling his sexuality will evolve, but I don't know that. I do know that the only option is enthusiastic support and unconditional love, during every phase of his journey toward understanding his sexuality. And this will allow for more open and honest communication and sexuality and labels, and not labeling other people  :lol: 
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