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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I want to ask OP why do you care what she does all day?  If you need the money then absolutely you have a right to discuss with her going back to work for the sake of your fa ily finances.  Or, if [b]the house is dirty, never any food in the house or meals prepared for kids, late paying bills, [/b]etc. Then I can also see you saying something.  But, if you are just generally annoyed by her being home and you want her to account for her time then I think that you really need to look inside yourself and ask why you feel that way.

I might be biased because I am so lucky with my DH.  He has often said to me if I want to put my feet up all day and watch tv, read, whatever then I should!  He told me never to feel guilty about wanting time for me.  Now maybe he says this because I am a neat freak, love to decorate, do his laundry, take care of the kids, cook dinner, etc.  It might be different if I did not do these things.  But he totally gets how hard it is.  Once the kids walk through the door at 3pm it is all kids all the time until 8:30 0r 9pm.  I have a 5 hr day right there!  He also appreciates that he can stay at the office late when he needs to and not be stressed.

Last week things were crazy as I was at one of the kids schools for 3 days helping with a play.  They needed parents and only had one or two who could help.  At the end of the performance, my husband looked at me and thanked me for helping our DS class have such a great performance.

Please ask yourself why you resent your wife some freedom with her day.  I bet you get a little at work.  Maybe coffee in the hall with a colleague, lunch out, sending an email to a buddy and stopping at best buy on the way home?  Think about it.[/quote]

PP, the part I bolded is the problem.  house is typically always messy, full grocery shopping is done maybe once or twice a month.  Often, we are out of basics like milk, eggs, bread and she will run to 7-11 in the evenings when I mention it to pick those up.  and then not go shopping again for a few weeks, dinner is hardly made when I get home (like in my pp, we fend for ouselves regarding dinner).  I wouldn't have a problem with her SAH if the household was managed.  [/quote]

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