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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, I didn't read the whole thread - were there some circumstances that made the first meet different from the second? Like a different team with better swimmers?

[b]If not, I actually think it's right for her to be a little worried. I don't think it's about achievement. I think when a kid was behaving or performing one way but then suddently changes, it's something to look into. Not because they need to a be a top swimmer, but maybe because something really is wrong with them.[/b]

I was on the swim team when I was in junior high. I went from being really dedicated to being distracted and not performing well. This happened right at the time we found out my mom was having an affair and my parents separated.

I actually had a few other instances like this when I was a child and I kind of resent it to this day that my parents "stayed out my business." I wish they would've asked me more questions about what was going on with me.

Maybe something legitimate happened to OP's child - problem at school? problem with friends?[/quote]

We had time trials on Saturday.  Many of our top swimmers posted times well off from their personal best.  It happens.  The coach isn't "demoting" them to slower lanes.  I've never come across a coach who would do something like that based on a single race.  My own kid missed her freestyle goal and had a lousy backstroke race at time trials.  She's still swimming exactly where she was before that.  Our conversation about it on the way home consisted of me asking if she'd enjoyed finally being back in the pool for a meet with her friends (and FWIW, my kid *does* have "something going on" in her life but I don't have to harp on her swimming to address it).

OPs kid is a 7 year old who had one bad day.  I don't think that even remotely qualifies as a "sudden change" indicating that "something really is wrong".  If there are other things OP notices going forward then maybe it's something.  But a single off day in the pool is indicative of nothing except it was an off day in the pool.  [/quote]

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