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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sophie is overused.[/quote]

They BOTH are[/quote]

Who cares?? I know like a hundred Carolines and still think it’s a lovely name. Better than Braxleigh just so you can be ✨unique✨[/quote]

You clearly don’t have a highly popular name in your era.  Trust me - it sucks.  It’s not just about being one Charlotte out of three in daycare.  You’re in high school, college, the work force and eventually the old age home with at least four other Caroline’s.  When I was first married there were three other Katie’s in my office so they started calling me by my married last name which I didn’t answer to because it was new.  My MIL is a Susan and when anyone my age forgets her name she says, “it’s probably the same as your mother in law or mother.  My dad’s three brothers were all married to Susan’s (one divorced the bad Aunt Sue).

It matters.

My kids have traditional names - just not on trend ones.

OP, please rethink both Sophie and Charlotte.  [/quote]

This just doesn't happen anymore, not to that degree. The most popular names now are nowhere near as popular as the most popular names back in the 70s and 80s. There is no equivalent to Susan or Jennifer or Emily for this era. There are no juggernaut names. Not even Olivia. If you pick a top 20 name, it's likely your kid will run into other kids with the same name, but it will never be like it was back when you were in high school and had to go by Jennifer #4 or whatever. I know a lot of Gen X and Millennial women are scarred from having a really popular name, but there is way more diversity in names now and it's just not anything close to the same situation.

Some people want to give their kids less common names, which is fine. Many people don't mind a more common name. Neither approach is right or wrong. Remember that your kids names are only less common because of all the Charlottes and Sophies in the world. There will always be more popular names (and they are usually more popular for a reason -- OP is giving her child a name that lots of people have positive associations with). It matters waaaaaaaay less than you think.[/quote]

NP here.  There are 3 Sophia’s in my DD’s class of 14 girls.  Are they simply going to disappear once they all hit the workforce?

Fashion and trend is the only reason for trendy names.  Sophia not more inherently beautiful than Susan.  Susan simply isn’t in fashion.  [/quote]

I mean, most people don’t care about having a more common name once they hit the workforce. This is literally only a real issue for kids. I have a common name and went by a nickname in HS to differentiate me (and hated it). But I haven’t thought about the commonness of my name in years. I sometimes run into people who share my name, and we just kind laugh about it and move on.

I did seek to give my DD a less popular name to avoid the issues I had, but I’m realizing it doesn’t matter as much these days. It’s a different environment and there are sooooo many more names in circulation. I think your Sophia problem is a weird microcosm (like a run on that name in your area) not a reflection of most people’s experiences.[/quote]

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