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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I actually think OP's point was to start some common types -- the guy who grooms you by being your pal, the guy who is a military person, etc.

I'll add -- my cheater worked in an industry known for helping others.  He used this as a cover.  Anyone working on these issues is assumed to be a "good guy".  In fact, he was a bad guy and was doing some things in his personal life that were a direct contradiction to his public life. An "out" public example of this is Eric Schneiderman, who publicly fought against domestic violence and privately physically abused his GF.  So, this exercise is kind of a warning to others -- be careful and don't make assumptions.

Yes, probably the majority of military guys might make good partners, but for some, it is definitely a "good guy" cover.  [/quote]

More married men "groom" women for an affair by first being a supportive friend than one would suppose.  As a woman you should always be smart, yes give a man the assumption that he is a "good" guy but also listen to your instincts and learn to recognize certain signs.

In my case a "nice" married man became my friend over a long period of casual talks at school events, which led to friendly, once a week walks in Rock Creek Park, and the occasional coffee.  Then one day my "friend" leaned in and pulled me close,,,  The whole grooming was so gradual that I failed to notice when someone I had previously not even been physically attracted to had become a man I had a hard time resisting.

I have no doubt he had done it before and has certainly gone on to "cultivate" women in the same way again.  In that case, his spouse worked for abroad for her government, so he was away from her for long periods.  Much like military separations I suppose.[/quote]The big, bad man lead you down a path you were powerless to resist? You took weekly walks in the park with a married man? Did you ever mention his wife on these walks? I'm sure you are an otherwise good, moral person who would never bone a married man.  None of this is your fault st all.  You were groomed. Give me a break, lady.  You are so full of sht[/quote]

Yeah I rolled my eyes so hard at PP.  Just another person with zero self accountability.  It's pretty hysterical how pathetic she sounds. [/quote]

Agree.  It’s absolutely disgusting that she peddles this shite to make herself look pious instead of the cheating slut she is...[/quote]

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