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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She supervised our requested IEP meeting of my young child at McKinley and while she allowed for accommodations, she did not allow the school to do an evaluation or give us and IEP or a 504 plan.  Several years down the road now and my child has been diagnosed with HFA, ADHD, and anxiety.  An evaluation that early could have been so helpful, but she said no, and I stupidly trusted the school to have our best interests at heart (and waited years to get another private evaluation) after getting this hard no from the school early.  But my kid was just suffering quietly, wasn't failing anything, and wasn't hitting anyone or disrupting the class, so we didn't get what we needed and my kid spent years blaming herself for struggling when the struggle wasn't her fault.

Parents of girls beware:  girls will often internalize their drama and blame themselves for it, which means schools don't always recognize what's up and give you what you need.  Boys often project their drama outwards onto others, which can yield them lots of services.  It's been this way forever and still schools are not always prepared to recognize these issues in girls wtf.  It's so frustrating.  Just don't do what I did and trust your school to have your child's interests paramount.  Schools would rather not implement IEPs if they can get around it with accommodations (which they're not legally bound to and cost them less).  If you see behavior in your kid that concerns you and you can afford a private evaluation, I recommend getting one.  (Public service announcement of a mom who meant well but feels guilty for not doing more earlier on.)[/quote]

Different school, different principal, but the same delay in diagnosis for the same reason (the school turned down our request and we trusted that they had our child's interest at heart). My child is a boy, though, and he does not project drama outward. Rather, he tries to fly under the radar. It breaks my heart how much damage we allowed them to do to him. Fairfax would have been better for us if only because he could have taken a Strategies for Success class (Instructional Studies in APS) as an elective without needing an IEP. But that is total hindsight; we didn't know any of it going in.[/quote]

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