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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP the most toxic relationship of my life was one where I was dealing with constant drama from my boyfriend’s teenaged daughter. She was 13 when we started seeing each other and 15 when I finally walked. I loved her and we had some good times together - she actually keeps in touch with me now and is estranged from her father - but her drama basically undermined the relationship and I don’t honestly know if we couldn’t have made it just fine had she been living with her mother and not her father. [b]Some days it just felt like she was jealous of me and we were in competition for the same man - it was weird[/b]. No, I don’t think there was anything inappropriate between them. I just think that preteen and teen girls can be very toxic and it can be really hard to parent them from the place of a solid long term relationship, much less a new relationship where you are de facto stepmother but without any really authority in her eyes.

If you’re not really in love with this guy, if you have reservations about him - I would say walk now before things get uglier. [/quote]

NP:  guy - this is my life right now.   I have experienced this with another date and her teenage daughter was completely unreasonable and unbelievably demanding as well.  Before the ‘sacrifice it all’ for your kid crowd chime in I would say if you want this work then you need boundaries. [/quote]

SEE THE BOLDED ABOVE.  That is textbook.  And she was.  She was damaged by the divorce.  She was scared her dad was going to abandon her.  [b]She was a child.[/b]  Her parent's marriage taught her that people can abandon those that they love.

I'm disgusted by the women on here putting down children for acting like children do, but giving a pass to ADULTS that are acting like selfish children putting their genitals above all else.[/quote]

Who is blaming the child?

There need to be better boundaries[/quote]

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