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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For those who say "I was a teenager, I know how to raise teens", unless you are under about the age of 15, it is a VERY different world for teens now than it was in the 80s/90s.

Kids/teens are exposed to so much more and know so much more than we did when we were kids.  If you don't believe me, listen to songs that come on the radio--Ke$ha for instance.  Or watch TV shows that come on TV--network television during primetime is much different than it was when we were young.  Family Guy is not the Cosby Show.    And it is very easy to find porn online.  Seriously you just have to google "porn".  Awesome for the consumer of porn, a challenge for a parent.

Parents cant just assume that they raised their kids right--it is necessary to realize that it is a different world, and prepare your kids for it.  Talk to them about real life issues that speak to tehm.  I know that if my parents had told me that my drinking at home could result in their losing their house, I would have rolled my eyes.  But had they told me how many calories were in booze, that woud have been a different story :-)[/quote]

I'm 28, so I do remember a lot of this stuff. I had a cell phone in high school. I think Family Guy was around (if not then by college it definitely was). I don't remember guys being anymore obsessed with internet porn than they were Playboy and Penthouse but I also was pretty sheltered and dorky so I don't think that was on my radar. Prescription drug abuse, "robo-tripping," pot, cocaine, all those things happened at school and I heard about them but I figured they always happened. It was private school, the privileged can often times afford to be really serious f-ups.

I guess how much trouble your children get away with/what trouble they get into depends on several things:

1) Assuming your child is naive or "too young for that." When I was in 7th grade a bunch of girls got caught drinking Grey Goose from water bottles. Their parents were stupid.
2) The amount of privacy that is allowed in your house... I have teenage cousins and the rules in their house are: lap tops can only be linked to WiFi in the living room, when parents are home (I think they turn it off or have it password protected from their kids); computer histories cannot be erased; no smart phones in the bedroom while sleeping. If they are caught breaking any of these rules they lose their cell phones for 2 weeks, which is supposedly devastating to a teenager's social life.
3) Knowing none of the "parent gossip" or who the fast kids are at your school.
4) Allowing more than 5 friends in your home. It is pretty well proven to be a recipe for disaster. With that many kids, some sort of abuse is bound to happen. [/quote]

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