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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you for the responses.

I would not say I parade in his face as the only time I have ever brought him up is regarding something logistical with no other way to explain something. But I hear you.

The 3 times they have been in same place - one was coincidence and other 2 were at kid sport events on my time with the kids.

This is probably more between him and my SO than him and me as we do have a good working relationship.

I can accept that exh will just never acknowledge or be cordial and it is something we have to deal with. And it is something I accept as my responsibility as I decided to be in a relationship with him.

I won't go as far to say AP should not go to things if my exh may be there. Which, honestly right now are few and far between because it is an LDR. [/quote]

You have a good working relationship because of your kids, not because he likes you or forgives you.  Good on him.  When your kids are grown he will ghost you more or less.  -another child of parents in this situation [/quote]

PP, how has the ghosting been for you as a child?  I have been very cordial to my unfaithful ex, but really intend to largely ghost him after DC2 graduates from HS and ex is no longer legally obligated to pay child support.  I will continue to be cordial at graduations, weddings, etc. but don’t see a reason to be in contact otherwise.  I have slowly been diminishing our contact as the kids got older and more independent (and after some verbal abuse of me in front of the kids) so the transition doesn’t seem abrupt.  But, I worry whether the ruptured relationship will affect the kids. I’d like to think not, and that honest disconnection is better than a fake front. [/quote]

I am the PP whose FIL did what OP did (and also had similar expectations of his ex wife). From DHs point of view as an adult, the ghosting was better.

Essentially my DHs adulthood had been a gradually deepening understanding of how badly his father acted and how hurtful his behavior was. [/quote]

Good to see that a husband actually sees what happened to his mom.  It seems like men can just move on and not care.  This seems a bit unusual to me that your husband was able to see the truth of it.[/quote]

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