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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Omg don’t freak out about this and ruin things. Seriously, I wouldn’t have even brought it up to him, but now you have to try to act like it’s not a big deal.

I had a serious ex who I stayed in touch with for many many years, and often we’d joke with each other about the people we were seeing. I remember when I takes to him about the guy I’m now married to (for 15 years, we have 3 kids and are super happy), and my ex tried to make some jokes about how lame he must be, and I had to tell him to stop etc.

Perhaps you were overhearing a similar conversation? BUT if my now DH had freaked out over my ex - who is still someone I’m in touch with, and he’s also happily married with kids - I’d have been totally turns off. Jealousy and paranoia don’t look good on anyone.

You could turn this into a conversation about how you want to be exclusive, but don’t act super freaked out about what you heard![/quote]

Yeah no

You have boundary issues[/quote]

No, I’m just a grown adult who recognizes that my DH had serious relationships before me, and he knows I did before him. We fully trust and love each other, our marriage is solid, and we are ok with the other maintaining contact with our exes.

Being paranoid about these things strikes me as wildly immature, and I’m sympathetic to that immaturity when one is in the beginning stages of a relationship and feeling exposed and insecure, but at a certain point a relationship becomes strong enough that talking about or to exes becomes no big deal.

My DH knows I always thought (when I was young) I would eventually get back together with my ex and marry him. He also knows once I met him (my DH) everything changed and I could not be more grateful. We’ve been married over a decade and are still totally in love so no insecurities here![/quote]

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