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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Girls like attention and claiming to be different in a fundamental way, especially a socially acceptable one for the time period, is a GREAT way to get attention and kudos in your social circles. In the 90s, a WHOLE bunch of girls claimed to be "depressed and suicidal" a la Kurt Cobain and would walk around literally talking all day about how sad and depressed they were. Magically this mostly went away in the 2000s when it was no longer en vogue to act like a crazy suicidal person. Bisexual was all the rage in the 2000s and all the girls were flaunting that they kissed their best female friend or whatever. Now it's parasexual transfluid whatever. I have no doubt that some people are literally gender nonconforming for valid biological or psychological reasons but I guarantee you 95% of these girls are just attention seeking. I have a colleague whose daughter claimed to start living her life as a man when she was 13, changed her name and everything. By 17 she was done with it. "just a phase bro"[/quote]

+1 For many of these girls, it is just a phase.  I don't see any harm in it... just continue to be supportive and loving.  As an interesting side note, from my experience as a high school teacher in FCPS (so I've taught about 2200 students over the past 15 years), most of these girls are white.  FWIW, our school population is about 30-35% white.  This also makes me think it is a trend rather than truly biological or psychological.[/quote]

Couldn't it also be that gender nonconformity has more of a stigma generally among nonwhites?[/quote]

For sure!  But I see a lot of freshman girls enter high school as LGBTQ+ and then graduate as mostly cis-gendered heterosexual females.  And again, I just encourage all parents to be loving and supportive as students explore their sexuality.[/quote]

+2 I also want to suggest, though, that we see lots of kids enter high school as "jocks" or "goths" or "theater nerds" and graduate as some other identity/presentation entirely. If you give your child room to explore, they will eventually figure out which identity actually fits. [/quote]

And so many enter HS cis-gendered but graduate and move on and are LGBTQ+ for the rest of their lives.[/quote]

Yes, that does happen as well.  But there are certainly fewer of those cases.[/quote]

Actually the opposite... especially in rural areas. [/quote]

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