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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The only allegiance I want my coach to have is to winning.

I prefer a coach who despise talking to parents. All parents. No favorites. No politics.

Winning. That’s it[/quote]

That’s not it. Don’t worry about winning if players are developing, learning, growing. My favorite seasons are the 4-6-2 type of seasons, with a couple of butt kickings mixed in. Enough wins to not be demoralized, but plenty of opportunities to see where improvement is needed.[/quote]

Losing mentality is becoming common place.

Losing is not developing. That’s a BS lie told to non-competitive parents.

Soccer parents seem to buy this line more than anyone else.

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You have no idea what you’re talking about. BTW, which clubs do your kids play for, club hopper?[/quote]

You seem defensive. That’s my opinion. You don’t like it? Oh well....

And for the record, I know exactly what I’m talking about.

Losing is not developing. [/quote]

Nor does winning when only half of the team players participated or when you bring guest players.  Dirty dirty dirty practices.[/quote]

I’m not talking about winning at all cost. I’m talking about losing as it’s part of a development plan. [/quote]

You will some you lose some. Your post makes it sound like folks prefer losing as part of development, like purposely coaching to lose. You sound ignorant. Rotating players at younger ages, letting kids play through mistakes to see how they respond etc is more important even if it results in a loss than just winning to win. You didn’t say winning at all costs but you didn’t have to—it’s implied even if you say it’s not. Of course coaches and players want to win. [/quote]

This "losing for development" stuff is largely BS.  Yes - a really good coach will indeed encourage kids to play through mistakes and lose some games as the kids develop.  But it shouldn't go on for a whole season or more.  The devlopment should mean that the team is performing at a higher level by mid-season than it otherwise would have done.  If you're still "losing in order to develop" at the end of the season either the coach isn't all that good or the players are just overmatched.[/quote]

I’m not the OP, but PP. I want to see scenarios where my kids are overmatched. Not every game, but a few. Maybe that’s playing up or just playing a team/tournament that is clearly higher level. But I want their best asset (eg speed) to be neutralized so they have to use other tools in their toolbox and/or recognize that they better get to work developing those tools, or they are going to run into problems down the road. It’s good to have a few easy games on the schedule, but outside of the ‘too hard’ and easy, I want to see the rest of the slate against teams that are very capable of getting the W so that they get the practice of having to execute in top form - focused, composed, and grinding.[/quote]

I agree and I'm not suggesting that a club should win every game.  Just that they shouldn't still be losing every game, or even most of them, and getting outplayed by allcomers by the end of the season.  If that's happening and the usual "Don't worry about the results, they're developing" BS is being trotted out - that probably means they're not being developed at all.  Devlopment should be obvious after a coup,e of months - if it's happening.  If you - the parent - can't see it, then it's probably not happening.[/quote]

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