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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I’m not a troll. I said I was an independent. I didn’t vote for Trump and don’t like the guy. To some extent, I agree with my gf that all politicians are corrupt, regardless of party.

She is very open-minded. One of her best friends is a Democrat. They had conversations about politics but they don’t let it interfere with their friendship.

I do support a large part of what she believes in. Not all of it but I know she is a good person. I never asked whether people on here thought she was a good person. Your comments are not needed. I asked if people who have different views can make a relationship work. I don’t care that you dislike a certain candidate or that you feel she is a bad person for supporting Trump. I think people who supper Biden are clueless, uneducated morons but I’m not calling people that. [/quote]

The fact that you used her being best friends with a Democrat as an example that she’s “very open-minded” shows how little your thinking is. It’s the same as someone saying they’re not racist because they’re friendly with their black neighbor. For one, you said they HAD conversations about politics, not HAVE. Furthermore, you don’t know how tolerant or patient her best friend is in general or just toward her for the sake of friendship. You don’t mention if the friend is more moderate in his/her thinking or progressive, or even if the conversations are in-depth or they just venture into brief shallow water territory. Maybe they’re one-off comments or they have a pact to agree to disagree. Maybe they censor or water-down their true feelings or real stances during the discussions in order to feel more objective. This is not uncommon. Especially when politics have always been seen as a taboo topic. The fact that you omit this suggests you either don’t really know or you’re intentionally trying to mislead by being vague. I have friends who are politically opposite from me. Depending on the friend’s personality, I either:

-don’t engage at all for both our sakes
-try to keep it surface level and if it starts getting too deep, change the subject (this is usually where my views are very watered-down)
-discuss it openly and freely with mutual understanding that respect is a two way street (only one friend is like this; because it’s incredibly rare)

How do you know her best friend is a Democrat anyway? If you’re basing this off of her voting for Biden or something, that would be an assumption on your part and not necessarily an accurate one. Not everyone who voted for Biden is a Democrat and not every liberal is a Democrat, either. [/quote]

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