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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, do you want to work, or do you need to work?  Also, does your baby spend good stretches of time alone with your spouse? This is something I would recommend if it's not already happening.

We did a nanny-share at this age with our oldest and it was the best of both worlds.  That said, I accepted that there would invariably be times the nanny might not pay attention to my child or do things exactly the way I would have wanted.  I think this is part of being a working parent--you cannot micromanage your child's caregivers and you need to be able to let go a bit, otherwise you will drive yourself (and said caregivers) crazy.  We vetted nanny applicants as carefully as we could, in particular checking lots of references.  We have had a few nanny applicants fake references over the years which was unnerving to discover.

I do think daycare may be a better fit for you because there is more oversight and multiple adults present at a time.  While we appreciated the nanny route when our kids were very young--and were grateful to be able to afford it, paying our nannies well and offering good benefits--it's not for everyone.  [/quote]

I don’t need to work based on spouse’s income (high 6fig) but want to, not because I really love working but because of everything I hear about needing to stay independent. [/quote]

I assume you have a degree and a significant amount of career experience, you are  not the same as an 18-year-old with no experience marrying her first boyfriend becoming a SAHM and completely dependent on him. You have a skill set to fall back on. Keep up with the changes in your field, you don't have to work to do this but it's a good thing to do so if you decided to go back to work once the baby is in school you can speak knowledgeably and  currently.

You may also enjoy working part time or using your skill set in another way.   I know some women who no loner do the  8 to 6 shift, but  teach an online class periodically.[/quote]

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