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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you a Mary Poppins type SAHM right now?

I say this as someone on maternity leave who loves it. But I'm not engaging baby 100% of the time. It would be overload for us both.

That said, no reason you have to go back to work of you'd rather be home. This is just one of many examples of not "having it all" and the nonstop decisions that come with parenthood.[/quote]

Op here. Yes, I actually do think I am the Mary poppins type right now while I am on leave. We do a bunch of activities everyday- 20 min pool time every morning, lots of floor time, face to face chats, house tours, walks. I do leave the baby in a baby holder when I eat but aside from maybe 20 mins a day twice, baby isn’t just sitting a bjorn. I also incorporate quiet time for baby to process everything but do this on the floor so baby can work on movement etc. I read a lot about baby development and incorporate that in what we do. I just don’t know if a nanny would ever be this invested. I get that benign neglect is good for kids and I’m not in baby’s face 24/7, but I’ve seen too many nannies on their phones in parks while their charges just sit there for 30 minutes in the stroller. [/quote]

If this is the case, and it is important for you for your child to have this kind of interaction, you really need to try to be a stay at home parent. Your child will never get this kind of one on one interaction with an adult at any daycare or with any nanny I’ve ever seen.

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I work, we have a nanny, she is absolutely wonderful and we adore her and feel so good about the care our child gets. I'm sure sometimes our nanny takes a phone break while the kids enjoy the fresh air at the park. Sounds totally reasonable. If you think what you're doing is important, to that degree, you do have to do it yourself. You can't hire a nanny who is never going to take 30 minutes to herself at the park while your kid is in the stroller, that's an unreasonable standard.

One other thing to think about though - are you planning on additional children? Because if you are, it's not going to be logistically possible for kid #2 to get this level of attention while you're juggling both of them. Now maybe you're planning on an only, or maybe you're purposefully waiting until your kid is in full day school to have a second so you can do this all again for #2. But most of the time - standards go way, way down with number two on stuff like this. Sometimes younger babies have to sit in their strollers at the park while you wrangle their sibling. Which I think is fine, though you may not. And if that's the case, there's an advantage to adjusting your standards now so you can go back to work (since you say in your header that's what you want to do). [/quote]

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