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[b]My sister is hell bent on bringing him home because she promised him she would. He asks to come home but honestly I don't think he knows what that is anymore.[/b] My siblings feel it is a mistake bringing him home. I live 200 miles away, and while two other siblings are nearby and can help, it seems that skilled nursing is the better option. We would have to have someone be there overnight (he tries to get out of bed and has fallen multiple times) and the rest of the time it would be up to my sister's who are in their 60's. Yes, we could bring in extra help, but after adding up the expense of in-home care, plus the stress on the family (my sister that lives with him is very unstable and volatile), it makes more sense to put him in long term care, where he has 24/7 skilled care. Has anyone else had to deal with a situation like this? He is 86 and as you can see, has multiple health issues. How do you go about convincing someone to leave him where he is - which he seems to be happy with most of the time? I don't know if she is doing it to alleviate her own guilt (and trust me, the way she conducted herself with him before all of this happened, i know I would feel guilty), but the situation just doesn't seem safe for my father. [/quote]

Is your father with it enough that you can get him to say he’d rather remain where he is and not go home?  Otherwise it seems that your sister is not going to change her mind particularly if she sees herself as fullflling his wishes and her promise (which she could feel is her duty as his POA.). Barring that, since your sister seems to have executive function difficulties, helping make sure the appropriate amount of home care is set up seems like your best option.  [/quote]

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