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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And practice self-care. There are so many things you have no control over - all you can do is the best you can. I imagine your dad appointed your sister POA when he was well enough to do so; these were choices that he made. They may have been terrible or misguided choices, but they were his and it’s what precipitated the situation he’s in. [/quote]

Thank you. [b]My siblings had a call with the social worker and nursing staff yesterday.  They were quite clear on the level of care required.  And its a lot. I know they have experienced my sister's instability,  but I'm not sure there is any more they can do, other than be candid about the enormity of the level of care he will need. [/b]The decision to appoint my sister as POA is another ugly event, but at the end of the day, even after experiencing her actions first hand, he did not make the change to one of his other children.  And you are right, that decision affected both my mother at the end of her life, and now his. It's hard not to have that in the back of your mind and just say "oh well, live with your decision ", but he is still my father and is a feeble vulnerable old man. I still want the best for him, and I don't think this is it. I have to accept it and pray it doesn't go down the same ugly manner as my mother's death.  As much as I want to prevent my father from the same fate, I fear I don't have a choice.  [/quote]

Nursing home SW here. If the requirements for discharge are met, then they might discharge him. But if the family member who is primarily responsible for the resident at home demonstrates instability, as you say it, or otherwise questionable behavior that might affect the resident, that is definitely considered. If you are on the contact list, they should be able to speak with you. And even if they can't, you can still speak with them without them having to divulge any medical information. If the facility decides discharge will not be safe, and your sister decides to take him anyway, they will probably have to report it to APS. And if she does take him with a "safe" discharge and you don't feel it's safe, you can call APS too.[/quote]

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