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[quote=Anonymous]OP....I can certainly sympathize with you....especially after your last post.  I'm the gal who has only had sex with DH once in the past year.  I guess I'm fortunate that neither of us hold grudges and have expectations that would land us in the corner of being bitter.

I look at the facts here:  you gave her an ultimatum and she decided in your favor.  You got what you ASKED her for.  I understand that you now have residual feelings regarding it all, but that is something that you may need to work on in counseling or in therapy, whether it be together or separate.

Regardless of the past, you have a new situation now.  We all have to situate to the new "now" that exists.  In your "now" you are getting more sex, but you are bitter.  This has now become your issue instead of hers.  Please don't take this the wrong way.  I'm not trying to insult you or your intelligence here.

Personally, I think that once you get through this "hump" in your marriage (yeah, corny joke, I know), your sex life and marriage will be better than ever.  Marriage is TOUGH!!!  What you are experiencing is so typical in a marriage.  Seeing it through to the other side will give you more satisfaction than letting it go and starting over with a new partner.  And when you get through this, you'll be back to truly making love instead of having sex.

As far as where I am at....I'm ecstatic that we had sex last week.  I know that one day soon, very soon, my husband will be finding a new job that is not as stressful and our sex life will change back.  I love him dearly and will wait it out because his mental well-being is my biggest concern.

I hope that you can see this marriage through.  I think there will be bigger bones for you when you work this all out with your wife and within yourself.

I'm an optimist...I believe there is a happy ending for everyone in this type of situation.[/quote]

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