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[quote=Anonymous]There were two events in my life when I really needed that “tough love” to help me see a situation more clearly and I am grateful for it because I was able to turn it around in a way that wouldn’t have happened if they stayed silent.  The key was that they gave an opinion because I asked - not unsolicited, it wasn’t phrased as telling me what to do, it was pointing out an observation or another possibility, and I want to think in the end they would have accepted whatever decision I made, even if it was different than what they would have done.  My parents are a different type of “tough love” where not only is it unsolicited, but they found it hard to let it go and let me make the decision different from their advice.

So I agree with the posters that say when “tough love” is your whole personality trait that’s a lot to take. But honesty when asked for in a specific occasion is a different situation and it’s important to read the room to understand if the other person needs you to be blunt or subtle in giving that honesty. [/quote]

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