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As a mother of many in a community and extended family of many large families, I implore onlookers to approach us with charity, instead of preconceived notions.  Saying mothers of many are often "lazy" flies in the face of common sense.  It is an enormous amount of manual labor just to keep everyone healthy and getting where they need to be--labor that goes unseen and unappreciated, usually.

Look, I'll be completely honest:  some moms get overwhelmed, some have issues with depression, some just can't figure things out.  And when you have six or eight little souls depending on you, your shortcomings impact more people.  So even though these struggles are common to mothers of any size family, the effect is more significant.  To whom much has been given, much is expected.

But something that makes an already enormous task even harder?  Dealing with social disapproval, constant nitpicking, a general sense that "you brought this on yourself," or "see?  You are not good enough"--these things drain the soul.  They leave you feeling isolated, under attack, and hopeless.

So try kindness.  Remember that you only see a snapshot.  That just as a screaming tantrum might be autism spectrum, or those tired eyes might be because her husband is deployed, that little girl might actually like carrying her baby brother around.

[b]Being open to children was the norm for most of human history, and the reasons for continuing family life that way now simply don't register for many people.[/b]  But we are doing our best, just like 2.1 children families, and we will have to answer for our actions.  It's so much more productive to raise each other up than beat each other down.[/quote]

pre-birth control
religion being perceived as "science"
children used as workers

Are you seriously comparing then to now?  [/quote]

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