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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you are an attorney and have taken a bar exam I don’t know why you have to study so much. I’ve take. A couple of bar exams and didn’t even stop working full time for the first one.

Honestly I don’t see why you can’t do it. You shouldn’t have to sit with an eight year old for virtual school. And you certainly are t working many hours if you’re only billing $10-$15k a month.

Your marriage and life is a mess. But taking care of an 8 year old and working a few hours a week shouldn’t prevent you from preparing for a second bar exam. [/quote]

OP here. PP, I'm happy for your that the bar exams were a breeze for you. I don't find it easy, also because I work in a very niche field where I do not get to use 95% of the things that are on the bar.

Yes, I work part-time as an attorney, but almost-full time as a teacher/tutor, basically.[/quote]

Point is you choose to teach/tutor your 8 year old. It’s not necessary. Like I said, I think your marriage is a mess. But I also think if you were on board with this bar exam you would figure it out. Because your life is filled with ways to make time that you choose not to take. [/quote]

Can you clarify why op should stop helping her son with DL in the middle of a pandemic, to take a bar exam to increase her earnings, so that her dh doesn’t have to pay as much to support her and her  son in a divorce?  What is your logic here?[/quote]

That’s not my point. [b]My point is that if she wanted to do it, she could.[/b] And she wouldn’t ha e to stop assisting with DL. She works probably 10 hours a week. Between that and six hours a day of DL, there’s a ton of time in her week. Lack of time is a weak excuse. She just needs to own it.

Frankly, I can think of many reasons OP would benefit from doing it. First, she’s not getting alimony and child support goes to age 18. She wants to move to an expensive area and she’s going to need a job which she can’t get without a license so she can’t move until she does it. What happens if her DH goes for custody and gets it and takes him to this expensive city and she can’t follow?  Sounds like he can easily outspend her in a custody battle.

I think the PP who said she’s fighting the divorce because she wants to stay married is right. And I think it’s always a good idea to prepare yourself for what life is going to put on your plate. [/quote]

But why would she?  She’s already a lawyer with a private practice. She’s solo parenting in the middle of a pandemic.  She makes enough money to support herself and her child.  Her dh wants her to earn more so he wouldn’t have to pay child support because he’s a high earner.   Why on earth would she want to take that on?[/quote]

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