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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Team nanny here.  It’s both the age appropriate and correct answer.  [b]Don’t listen to anyone who tells you otherwise. [/b] [/quote]

But boys do have penises and girls do have vaginas. Are there men without penises? Sure. But OP's kid said an irrefutably true statement that does not preclude any nuanced understandings of gender. Logic 101.[/quote]

I agree with this.  Basically a kid that age is referring to other kids.  You could get into a more detailed nuanced conversation about the available surgeries for older folks who want to have their penis removed or have a penis added to their body, but I'd probably delay a conversation like that way past three.  I'd think it was a better idea to start with the basic biological realities that a three-yr-old wants to understand.[/quote]

Other kids are sometimes inter sexed or even transgender. No one is discussing surgery on sex organs here; just recognizing that anatomy and sense of self and the way they go together can and do vary.

Life could be easier for the kids we’re talking about and your kid could help by not bringing oversimplified concepts to their interactions. I sure as hell hope mine will do the same (and FWIW he had no difficulty understanding it because he also knows trans and gender nonconforming adults).[/quote]

So you've got an agenda. Your focus is not on the psychological well-being or age appropriate development of OP's child. But OP's focus is on her child, and on what is age appropriate and good for her child's development right now. She doesn't need to worry about whether her 3 year old is making inclusive gender statements for hypothetical people he has never met.[/quote]

My agenda is that my kid grow up to be kind and to accept with interest the incredible range of human normal in himself and everyone else. Isn't this what everyone wants?

The easiest way to do that, by far, is to set kids up for it early--not to teach a hard-line binary distinction and hope the more complicated questions don't get discussed on your watch as a parent.

When my son was three, the path for that included what the nanny said. What she said was perfect and all that needed to be said at that age. [/quote]

Teach your toddler to be nice to people, even people who are different from them. That is all that kids need at this age.[/quote]

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