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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have any leverage to include it in your divorce settlement agreement? [/quote]

Include what?[/quote]

It is a very typical divorce settlement clause that the new partners not to be introduced to kids until after 6-12 months AFTER the divorce. I understand you are not even divorced yet! Basically he abandons you and your son, and yet wants some overnights. This is insane, I would only offer him visitation in such situation and request full custody and increased child support[/quote]
You guys are so delusional. There is no abandonment. You are allowed to leave. Certainly he’s not abandoning the child if he wants overnighted. You don’t get full custody and increased child support in these circumstances. You all are so unrealistic and talking from a place of such naïveté that you offer nothing helpful for OP.[/quote]

How is he going to enforce his custody rights, if the OP just refuses these overnights? There is no divorce settlement agreement in place, and the husband would have to go to court for temporary custody schedule. These hearings are not easy to get during covid. She can easily drag it out for a year increasing his legal bills. I am not saying OP would easily get full custody but she can make life difficult enough for dad if he moves out like that. [/quote]

Court/custody battle.  If Dad is a decent Dad, you need to keep your marriage out of it.  He cheated on Mom, not the child.  Granted cheating does impact parenting but if it was an issue many mom's would not get custody too.  Courts don't care about cheating.   And, you only hurt the child.  And, she's also increasing his legal bills.  There is no guarantee a judge will grant her attorney fees.  So, they can end up fighting for years, huge attorney fees and then what?  A child struggling as the parents are too busy fighting to put him first?

He can walk out on his marriage but don't give him a free pass to walk out on his child.[/quote]

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