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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I guess there's a fine line between gloating/bragging and celebrating.

To me, gloating is more like if I am happy others aren't succeeding which is not the case here. It would be great, as far as I'm concerned, if everyone got what they wanted/needed.

However, I do think DCUM, the DMV in general and my kids' friends and their parents are a bit overly frothed up about high-status schools and that is one of the reasons I posted here. I want to reassure other parents that it's not highly-SLAC or die. There are many options for many types of kids and, in fact, some kids would be happier and more successful at less selective schools because those other schools are a better fit for the individual.

I am sensitive to other's feelings and haven't posted on social media and have only told a few select friends/family. Seeing as this is an anonymous forum, I figured it would be safe to be a little celebratory without hurting anyone's feelings. [/quote]

You mentioned “average.”. Maybe other parents are frothed up because their kids are exceptional and have legitimate chances at those schools? 
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Most don't though. You don't only have to be above average to go to an Ivy, you have to have some exceptional thing. Most really, really high achieving high schoolers don't have a shot at an Ivy. My daughter had a 4.3 WGPA and a 35 on the ACT was also a 4 year varsity athlete in 2 sports and did other activities. She had no chance at an Ivy. That's fine. She ended up at an excellent state school with money in a really competitive major. Point is, there's no reason to set up these expectations because the benefits of going to an Ivy don't outweigh the negative aspects of putting so much pressure on kids. BTW, I went to a very average college, felt no pressure to go to a "higher ranked" school and guess what? I'm a very successful, professional adult. I work with people who went to community college before going on to grad school and I work with Ivy grads and everything in between. Having gone to an Ivy didn't seem to get them any farther than the rest of us...[/quote]

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