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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A couple weeks ago when we had the snow, my husband got up early that morning to get the grocery store for a few things we needed, so I didn't have to. I planned to make chili that night, so on the list I put "sharp cheddar cheese." He brought home everything on the list but when I pulled out the cheese it was mild. My FIRST thought was "I wrote down sharp" but I caught myself and realized, Hey, it doesn't matter. He did me a favor, he got up and went to the store, and it would make me a queen BITCH to point out the one tiny mistake he made from the list. Instead, I thanked him. After reading OP's list, I REALLY hope that instinct sticks with me throughout our marriage. I don't blame you for venting about this OP, I just know if I was your wife and I read how awful I came across to you, I'd be so ashamed of myself. I wonder if it even occurs to her, either before or after, how bad her behavior is.  [/quote]

NP here, and just wanted to say that this happens all the time with my DH, and it drives me nuts.  Yes, I can bite my tongue about one thing one weekend, but when it happens every trip it is hard not to be like CAN YOU NOT READ?  I used to do all the grocery shopping to avoid this very thing and did not resent it at all, so I wasn't sitting back and then bitching, but I had a rough pregnancy and he took over and now we split it post-baby.  Anyway, the thing that saved this for us was an app for his ipod that allows him to scan the barcodes of all the stuff we normally get.  Then he just makes a list from the scanned items when I tell him what we need and he will only buy things on that list.  No substitutions (so now I have to bite my tongue about "why didn't you just get the mild if they were out, you know I need cheese?" ;)), no additions (so no coming home with chips unless I ask for them which is good and bad at times), so it works.[/quote]

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