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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you to many of you for the excellent advice and understanding.  I am not embellishing and have been upfront about the situation.  As for my pension, you are correct...I'm a firefighter.  I'm too old to start over again and would loose my retirement including lifetime medical benefits.  Trust me, I've thought of moving but it's just not an option.  And that does not mean I love my job more than my kids.  
I have a therapist as many have suggested and it honestly helps a great deal.  I've never hit/spanked/threatened my children.  I've never even handled them aggressively or roughly.  Look, I've been on way too many pediatric deaths in this city to ever harm a hair on either of my children's head.  During our marriage I was constantly criticized for being too soft on them.  She hasn't denied me visitation but has made it very difficult and now has convinced my kids that I hit them, making them not want to go with me.  Believe it or not, I think she's a good mom.  She cares for them and they are safe with her.  They go to bed on time, do their school work and are generally happy.  [b]I believe the reason for this is that her boyfriend is wanting to marry her and she has the entire idea of a new family (without me in the picture) in her mind.[/b]  She also lives off child support and alimony which totals about $3000 a month and refuses to get a job.  ($3000 goes a lot further where she moved to than it does around here).  I just want my time with my girls and I don't want her trying to get in the way of my relationship with them.  I will continue to do the visitations and make the most out of it.[/quote]

The bolded is exactly her goal, and this is her second attempt at it.  I think you are really underestimating what's going on here. Good luck.[/quote]

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