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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have to have a support system and I would only consider having a child without one if you have lots of money, but it's still an issue. While you can buy part of a support system, you need to be able list people who will raise that child if you become incapacitated or die.

I have a family member who did this. She luckily makes enough money to buy many supports, but she is an incredibly nasty person to us and she is over-indulging the child to the point there would be a lot of entitled behaviors to undo. None of us are willing to be her emergency person. We are overwhelmed enough with our own kids (one of mine has special needs, my brother has one with medical issues) and eldercare issues from hell.

Speaking of eldercare said sibling uses the child as an excuse to do nothing which is fine because she would do nothing if she didn't have a child too. However, it's all the more reason we cannot be her emergency person.There are constant emergencies with our own parents. Add to that the emergencies that come up with your kids and spouse and you basically overtax what remnant of a support system you might have. Like maybe if I didn't have so much on my plate I would forgive a sibling who was jerk my whole life and be there for their spoiled, rude and entitled kid as needed. I would do the work to reverse the damage, teach manners and character, but now I'm sorry. My family I created is my number 1 priority.[/quote]

So if your sister passed away, and your niece/nephew needed a home, you wouldn't take this kid in?  YIKES.[/quote]

If someone doesn't think they can be a loving, adequate caregiver to an orphaned child, and will instead resent them, as PP seems to, they should NOT take them. [/quote]

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