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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I lurk on these threads because my DH smokes daily, multiple times a day, as well.  I hate it.  We have fought over it.  It has changed my feelings towards him and my opinion of him, but I am trying desperately to be accepting of it because I love him.  He claims it is his medicine.  He says things like, 'would you rather I just take xanex and/or prozac"?, as if those are the ONLY options.  He claims he needs it to be able to function.  At the same time, he's perpetually unemployed, surly, unmotivated, emotionally lazy, and clearly depressed.  So, not sure HOW its "helping" him.  Now our teenage son smokes regularly.  He barely graduated HS and currently has "no plans" for the foreseeable future.  I hear many anecdotes about high-functioning professionals who manage to smoke every day "just to relax" but I have yet to meet these people. I see people claiming that the kids arent watching really and its fine. In my life anyway, the people I know who are well employed and functioning have healthy habits.  This does not mean these people NEVER smoke or drink, but they don't do it with the type of frequency I see my DH engage in.  I think its definitely a spectrum and to call the OP here a shitty wife is to make several assumptions about how innocent the husband is in all this. I also think it is VERY apparent the our son's use can be traced back to the very casual attitude DH displayed about it.  He continues to come in from the garage wreaking of it, thinking he can mask it was cologne.  :roll:   Cannabis is like ANY substance.  It can be abused.  Dealing with someone who is delusional about their addictions is way it impacts their family is isolating and mentally exhausting.  [/quote]

I mean...it sounds like he [i]should[/i] be taking Xanax or Prozac...Saying he needs cannabis to function isn't a great argument from someone who is not actually functioning. I'm sorry to hear your son seems to be going down the same path.

But yeah, there are plenty of high functioning professionals who smoke every day. You probably know some. They just don't talk about it because of the stigma.[/quote]

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