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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have friends who really and truly practice gratitude every day. Their lives are sunny because, well, they are sunny. It’s not that they don’t have hard times, it that they choose to focus on the good. They aren’t trying to be a brand, they really want to share and spread the good. Sure, their lives aren’t perfect, but I don’t need to see that. I have enough imperfect in my life. I check them out when I need a laugh or pick me up.

I don’t get the idea that “real life” has to be miserable, or sharing misery. Misery passes if you let it go.

I don’t get the idea of blowing out someone else’s candle to make yours look like it’s burning brighter, either [/quote]

Part of teaching kids good character is being optimistic and grateful sure, but it's also being humble. You share your good news absolutely, but if you are crossing over in bragging DAILY, it's not being optimistic. It is being obnoxious. It's like humblebragging on social media and then posting #blessed. That is not showing gratitude if you do it all the time. It's trying to hide your bragging. Do you see the difference? OP is saying this is happening every single day. Our kids should not need a constant stream of praise to function. Of course we want them to be optimistic and grateful. That doesn't mean they don't need read the room. [/quote]

NP. Unless someone is putting things like job promotions, raises, new clothes/jewelry/handbags, kids' accomplishments, or each BJ they get from their spouse on social...it's not bragging, it's sharing.

Photo of a hike with kids...that's just sharing. Photo with spouse on vacation...that's just sharing. Photo of grandma visiting and making cookies...that's just sharing. That's just LIFE.

Some sharing is more special and anomalous. I have a friend who is a school principal. Most of his posts are pretty rid of the mill...but he was selected to go on a university delegation to China for an education panel. That wasn't bragging, that is just sharing an extraordinary moment in his life.

I highly doubt anyone is bragging and boasting to their family via text daily. But sharing positive things (hey, it snowed! We went sledding a bit!)...that is just LIFE.[/quote]

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